Saturday, June 1, 2013

Final Days of Solitude

Today marks the first day of the month where I will embark in an entirely different kind of life, a marriage life. It means that there are things I have to let go:
  • my lovely housemates with whom I have been living together for the past 5 years.
  • special time and privilege with myself where I used to eat, drink, or do whatever stupid things to my heart's content.
  • exclusive control on my money, time, or life.

In return I will gain:
  • a loving roommate whose lovely face will be the first thing I see every morning.
  • special time and privilege with a great cook, a drinking buddy that will stop me while I'm sober, and the best friend to do wonderful things together.
  • a great financial controller, time manager, and life partner.

Not bad, huh? If it's still not convincing enough, she is also the one who:
  • is proud of me.
  • is patient with me.
  • is there for me when I feel lonely.
  • supports me when I am weak.
  • corrects me when I am wrong.
  • drives me when I am lost.
  • forgives me when I sin.
  • loves me for who I am.

And, the most important thing is, she is the one that I love with my life and choose to be my wife :)

Shot by our dear friend, Melisa

Sunday, February 12, 2012

2012 New Year's Resolutions

I know it's a bit too late, but well, I don't really have a habit of writing new year's resolutions, let alone publish them in a blog. Heck, I've never even thought about it. Anyway, I'd like to put some of them into writing.

1. Stay together with Ike

This is my #1 goal this year. So far, our relationship is rather smooth sailing, with some small waves we managed to overcome. I don't know if it will stay that way, but I hope we'll stay together no matter what. Not only that, I also wish that our relationship grows stronger and more mature, and hopefully we can move to the next level soon.

God, please guide us.

2. Have a better relationship with God

The relationship with God is normally #1 in every Christian's list. But I don't want to lie to myself and put this as #1 because of the obligation. I know I haven't prioritized God in every possible way, but I do want to try.

Things that I want to improve:
  1. Pay more attention to sermon
    I often literally fell asleep during a sermon, especially when I felt that the preacher or the topic was boring. I know this is, in fact, an insult to God's servant and God's words. It's definitely wrong and I want to fix it.
    Lately I've been regularly taking notes (on my iPad) of the sermons. I found this effective to keep me focused and it's quite useful since I can easily refer back to them when I need to review or dig deeper on a specific topic. I'll continue this good practice this year.
    So how can I improve this? In addition to just taking notes, I want to rewrite/summarize/dig the sermons and post them in blog posts. That way I will understand better and at the same time, share God's words to other people. I've actually started doing this a while ago, but I became lazy lately. I hope I can restart it this year. At least once a month, I'll pick a sermon topic or another spiritual topic and write a blog post about it.
  2. Bring more offering to God
    God has blessed me tremendously throughout my life, and therefore, since many years, I've been faithful in giving offering and tithes to God, as a small thanksgiving for what God has provided.
    What more can I do? I hope I can offer more than just money, but my time and effort to God. 

3. Maintain a good health

I'm very lucky my girlfriend is a health-freak. She's obsessed with healthy food and lifestyle. She reminds me every time to eat vegetables and fruits and drink a lot of water. She pushes me to exercise more and often we will swim together. I quite enjoy sports, except running, so it's not really a burden for me. I love fruits and I can at least tolerate some kinds of vegetables, so this is not so difficult.

The two bad habits that I'm still struggling with are:
  1. Fried food
    Frying is my favorite way of preparing food. I love fried food more than anything. Definitely it's not a healthy choice so I have to try hard to avoid or at least reduce the consumption.
  2. Sleeping disorder
    I like to stay awake in the dead of the night. That's the only time I can have my private and distraction-free time. But of course, lack of sleep in the night leads to unproductive day and it's bad for the health. I have to start going to bed regularly before midnight this year.

4. Have another family vacation

My last full family vacation is in 2010. My dad, my mom, and my sister all came to Singapore and we spent some good time in Singapore and Kuala Lumpur. Early this year, they traveled to Thailand without me, since I had just visited it with my friends a month earlier.

Since I don't live together with them, I miss them every day. I hope to have a great vacation and enjoy the good time with them again this year.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Knowing your weakness is half the battle

Yesterday afternoon, I had a lunch together with a colleague. I recently learned that she was a fellow believer and we started to discuss about our belief.

The day before, she shared a verse with me:
For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. (Galatians 5:17 NIV)
Initially I didn't know what did she mean by sharing it with me. But yesterday she told me that sometimes she struggled to follow God's will because of her human's weaknesses.

She also told me that she had been reading some articles about this. There was one particular part that had my interest, because it described the innate weaknesses of each of the four temperaments that could drag us to commit sins. It was like a coincidence it struck me, since I just wrote a blog post about these four temperaments a few days ago.

I forgot to ask her where to get the article, but basically I think I got the basic idea to reproduce them.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Pharaoh's Dreams

"Pharaoh's Dreams" is the title of the passage (Genesis 41:1-39) that we discussed during the cell group meeting this evening.

Although we have a rather big cell group — or Life Group as the people at Hope Church call it — of more than 20 people, normally we split into smaller groups during discussions. Today I was in the same group with Hady (discussion leader), Yohana (Hady's girlfriend), Nia, and Chin.

I like today's discussion format since we got to study the bible interactively, not just listening to someone who talks all the time without even reading a single bible verse. At first, we read the whole passage individually.

Pharaoh's Dreams, source:
Since it's quite long, I'd like to summarize it instead of quoting the whole passage.
It began with the dreams of Pharaoh (the ruler of Egypt). His first dream was about seven healthy and fat cows that were eaten by seven ugly and gaunt cows. The second dream was about seven healthy and good heads of grain that were swallowed up by seven ugly and thin heads of grain.

Joseph, with God's guidance, interpreted that the dreams told about the coming of seven years of great abundance, followed by seven years of famine.

Joseph suggested that Pharaoh saved the food during the good years to be prepared for the famines. Amazed by Joseph's godliness, Pharaoh appointed Joseph as his right hand to take care about this matter.
Then we shared what we learned as follows:

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

What is my temperament?

I found this is one topic that keeps popping out during discussions with different groups of friends (or people). I used to be able to answer it very readily: choleric. In recent years, however, I've been thinking, am I still one? Do I still want to be one?

Before I continue, I've put together a small infographics to give you a bit perspective about the 4 different temperaments, check it out:

Click the image to enlarge
If you think the above diagram is too complicated, I know (I can't remember the source) a good one-sentence summary that represents these 4 temperaments:
A choleric does things my way, sanguine the fun way, phlegmatic the easy way, and melancholic the right way.
I don't understand why people (including me) like to put label on others. Perhaps it's just for fun, or to make fun of others (I know I do that sometimes, shame on me). Actually, the label that we assign to someone doesn't mean anything. Why?

Sunday, September 18, 2011

Christianity is beyond what I do

This is the third and last part of Hope Church’s “Losing My Religion” series. Unfortunately, I didn't attend the second part. A friend has written the first part and the summary of the series, so go check her blog before continuing reading. I know her blog is nice and all, but please, please come back here and read the rest of this post :p


Losing My Religion - Part 3
Christianity is beyond what I do

Summarized from a sermon by Pastor Jo on 18 Sep 2011 at Hope Church Singapore

You go to church very week, attend cell group meeting every week, attend prayer meeting 3 times a week, serve as worship leader in every service, and you think you're Christian. People think you are a truly devoted Christian. Your family or loved ones think you spend too much time at church — just kidding. But do you know or care what God thinks about you?